THIS Very Moment

What do you want to be when you grow up?  I bite my tongue when I consider asking my children this question because the question is often impossible to answer.

“I have no idea”

And then, because we have no idea, we feel pressure, we feel shame, we feel like we are the only human beings on the planet without a plan.

We are also uncomfortable about not knowing.

AND we don’t like to be uncomfortable.

“The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of
uncertainty you can comfortably deal with.” ~Tony Robbins

One of the greatest gifts of a regular meditation practice is that I’ve been taught that the ability to let go, not know everything, and not try to control what will happen next is a necessary skill for a happy, joyous, and free life.

Let me share a quote I stumbled upon yesterday:

“Sometimes I can hear my bones straining under the weight of all the lives I’m not living.”
― Jonathan Safran Foer, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close

Love, Love, Love.  There.Is.So.Much.To.Do.

I’m not talking about laundry, and going to work, and chores, and on and on with our life minutiae.  I’m talking about THINGS I want to do…facets of lives I want to experience…

I want to be a competent (if not great) cook
I want to write a blog
I want to write a book
I want to start a small business
I want to climb mountains
I want my jeep to climb mountains
I want to skydive
I want to fly a plane
I want to master the headstand – and then rock a handstand

I guess what really struck me about the quote was that, if we are lucky, we live several lives within our lives.  When I was a child, a teen, a young adult, my 20s, my 30s, and now my 40s – there have been many varied chapters.  The road has wandered, detoured, been fast tracked, and back to wandering.  My 20 year old self had absolutely NO IDEA that my to do list would look like it does at 47 years old. That my dreams and goals would be…would be so different!

Who knows what tomorrow brings?

“Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit”— yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes.” James 4:13-14

Which brings me to my final thought this morning…

Today is all we have. And even then you’re not guaranteed the whole day.  This VERY moment is all you have.  Put down the phones. Put down the masks. Put down the myth that you have to have it all figured out today and just go for it. Try something new. Try something hard. Absolutely insist on participating in this very moment of your life.

CANNOT wait to read this book…
“Why didn’t I learn to treat everything like it was the last time. My greatest regret was how much I believed in the future.”
― Jonathan Safran Foer, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close

Blessings y’all – DM

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Donna Matthews is a blog writer at the DJRanch where she strives to remain authentic while not taking herself too seriously. She is also the creator of Slay The Chaos (, where she writes about productivity and organization. She is a member of The Writers Guild and Write Space in Houston and is currently writing her first book.