Day 23 – Spend Yourself

31 days Flourish-Day

No, O people, the Lord has told you what is good, and this is what he requires of you: to do what is right, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God. Micah 6:8

Today we finish up Goodness with talk about service/action/getting a move on.  My favorite way to serve is through mission trips.  I’ve been on many through the years…primarily with my children…but also a couple adult trips. I also serve at my church quite extensively in the student group as well as some Sunday duties.  I also serve my family and friends in a variety of different ways.


Keep LifeWe are called to spend ourselves.
And in spending ourselves, our lives become rich.

Now, I’m not talking about being so busy that you don’t know which way is up and you can barely keep your head on straight.  There is a principal of “The Best Yes” (could be a whole other Write 31 Day Challenge) that demands the discipline of saying no in order to say yes.  I have a tendency to get that busy…to fill my life with stuff and activity and it keeps me distracted from the stuff that really matters.  I’m missing the boat when I allow life to get so out of control. Also, in order to be really still and hear God, requires GREAT discipline and confidence in Him.  We’ve got to shut out all of the world’s voices and focus on just His…not for the faint of heart…AND, I digress.

What I am talking about is living your life as a blessing to others.  It’s more than works, although, works are important.  It’s an attitude and a way of life.  However, similar to my struggle with becoming a door mat, how do you not become lost in everyone else?  But maybe that’s the point…we gain life when we lose it.

Then Jesus said to his disciples, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross, and follow me. If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for my sake, you will save it. And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul? Is anything worth more than your soul? Matthew 16:24-26

 If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it.

Scripture is very clear that we are created to do good works and as I eluded to earlier in the post, we MUST be able to discern what those good works are at any given point in our lives.  Let’s look at an example:

My children are almost grown and the season of student ministry is nearing it’s end.  I LOVE student ministry but I have been active in it for over 11 years (I’m tired!)…and while I will see my youngest through to the end, the time is coming to hand off the baton.  What is next?  Where does God want me to spend my time?  Believe it or not…it might be to remain in student ministry…but like I said…I’m tired.  Another concept of spending our lives…you will grow tired and weary but you must press on.  I’m not suggesting to never take a break nor have time for rest and refreshment.  But what I am trying to convey is that we must be connected to the vine in order to discern the best YES.  We must be connected in prayer, the Word, and quiet time with our Lord in order to determine which good works he is calling us to do!  And THEN we must be connected for the times we are weary of doing good…

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

And what will we reap?  The fruit of the Spirit! Others knowing Christ! His Kingdom here on earth.

It’s a process.  It’s a relationship.  It’s a journey without Google Maps.

Let’s do good together and hear “well done good and faithful servant” – DM

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Donna Matthews is a blog writer at the DJRanch where she strives to remain authentic while not taking herself too seriously. She is also the creator of Slay The Chaos (, where she writes about productivity and organization. She is a member of The Writers Guild and Write Space in Houston and is currently writing her first book.