Not a Spirit of Fear

Truly, I am probably the most a-political person you’ll ever meet.

a·po·lit·i·cal: not interested or involved in politics.

I simply don’t care – much to the dismay of my husband and other family members.

BUT lots of you do care and based on the Facebook feed and news highlights from yesterday, FEAR played a big part of yesterday’s going ons…and while I couldn’t care less about politics – I do know a thing or two about FEAR.

Yesterday in Entrusted, we discussed 2 Timothy 1:6-7…

Verse 7 says…
for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control

We were not given a spirit of fear but how many of us default to a FEAR worldview?  More importantly…how do we let power, love, and self control get out of whack because of our fear?

Unhealthy power – feeling powerless or exerting excessive power over others.  Y’all ever hear about Queen Bees – they are the ladies in the office that wield power and control over others in demanding and sometimes demeaning ways.  Early in my career I was bossy, demanding, and impatient – projecting on you all the fear I felt inside about myself.  I’m NOT saying that I WAS a queen bee but I WILL admit to letting my insecurity and fear cause a need to pretend to have it all together when I really didn’t have a clue…and having all that fear seep out in power struggles.

IMG_1879Unhealthy love – clinging – trying to control others to make ourselves feel more in control – oy – it’s not a secret that this season of motherhood has been challenging and I think to some extent every mother of a teenager wonders why they procreated and when will the rollercoaster end.  One of my very favorite parenting quotes is “When we focus on trying to control the circumstances in our kid’s life, all in the ‘name of wanting what’s best’, we put ourselves where only God should be – in control” Autumn Ward. Seriously – how many times have you thought to yourself “damn, if they’d only listen – I know what’s best for them!?!?” Truth is, we may think we know what’s best for other people and in particular our children but in reality we simply cannot see the whole picture.

Unhealthy self-control – again, trying to control others to make ourselves feel more in control…or obsessive behavior.  One particular way that I exercise control is in my environment.  A place for everything and everything a place.  If my physical space is in control then my emotions will be in check – or so I continue to tell myself.

for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control
So what does this verse imply?  Encourage? What can we learn?
Trust that God is in control and his strength is made perfect in our weakness.

Trust – opposite of fear is faith
Power – not our own power but in God’s mighty power
Love – 1 John 4 says…There is no fear in love – perfect love drives out fear. God is love. This love comes from the confidence of knowing who we belong to.
Self-control – in some versions translated as sound mind.  Making good decisions – wise decisions.  Recognizing our place in the grand scheme of things.  Sane deliberations – can I get an amen? Prayer, wisdom, humility.

So what does ANY of this have to do with the election?  We have a choice to react fearfully or faithfully.  Whether or not your candidate won – our nation is about to change – some for good, some for bad.  Not a single one of us knows what tomorrow holds – sure, we have ideas and opinions, but not facts.

What I can tell you, is that, in our day to day lives – the more we follow God, rely on God, and let God transform our lives and thoughts – the less fear we’ll experience…the less we’ll act out in  fearful worldview behavior, especially at things out of our control…like elections.

Faithful lives or fearful lives?

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Donna Matthews is a blog writer at the DJRanch where she strives to remain authentic while not taking herself too seriously. She is also the creator of Slay The Chaos (, where she writes about productivity and organization. She is a member of The Writers Guild and Write Space in Houston and is currently writing her first book.

2 thoughts on “Not a Spirit of Fear

  1. Craig Vickerman

    Awesome post. Great thoughts, thx. Way to point people back to God.
    Much love to the whole Matthews clan

  2. Bob

    Thanks Donna. I needed to hear your comments.

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