Day 22 – Expectation

If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn’t eat him.

The idea of expect is like a classic frenemy.  It’s a big, big word that holds promises, and dreams, and anticipation, and excitement.  We all wake up each morning expecting the day to go a certain way.  We expect our people to act a certain way. We expect.

But like any good frenemy – the word flips on us.  It’s full of bitter disappointment.  We had it all figured out until we didn’t.  And we continue to suffer because not only are things not like we expect them to be – we fight against the reality of how they are – we suffer doubly.

And I think this idea of expecting fairness makes it even worse.  There are many cases in my life where my choices lead to unpleasant consequences.  But there are for sure things that have happened to me that just aren’t fair.

I was talking to a woman this afternoon that was questioning God’s existence in all the recent unfairness in her life.  “How could God let all this happen?” and of course, there wasn’t anything I could say that would matter in the moment.  I’ve been where she is and no matter how wise or how kind the words, they can’t pierce the hardness around the heart at that moment.    I could only sit there and be with her.  I don’t know why there is unfairness.  I don’t know why the human race suffers and struggles the way it does.

But what I do absolutely know is that God is real and we must stop expecting the world to behave in certain ways.  But we also need to stop expecting God to behave a certain way.  We have to guard against relying on our own wisdom, thoughts, actions, selves.

…so that your faith might not rest in the wisdom of men but in the power of God. 1 Corinthians 2:5

Until tomorrow,

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Donna Matthews is a blog writer at the DJRanch where she strives to remain authentic while not taking herself too seriously. She is also the creator of Slay The Chaos (, where she writes about productivity and organization. She is a member of The Writers Guild and Write Space in Houston and is currently writing her first book.