Where do you draw the line between concerned, involved parenting and enabling? Are you really powerless or are you giving up? At what point do you let go and let them figure it out?
As humans, we are hardwired to follow the herd and we tend to look around and get our cues from others – and sometimes this is healthy, especially if you have good role models around. But we also know we are living in whacked out times and good role models are harder and harder to find. AND, even when you have a good role model – their path is not your path – you may have similarities but ultimately, you are on your own. Unless, of course, you are a follower.
I’m reading this book titled The Grave Robber, How Jesus can make your Impossible Possible – it’s a book on the seven miracles in John’s Gospel and honestly, I fluctuate between feeling hopeful and wanting to scream. Why? Because I DON’T WANT TO BE POWERLESS. I DON’T WANT TO BE IN THIS SITUATION. I DON’T WANT TO NEED A MIRACLE.
But that’s the kingdom way isn’t it…when we’re at the end of our rope, the end of ourselves, that’s when we’re nearest to God. And in the quiet of my desperate prayers I remember it’s that way for my child as well.
The five minute Friday writing challenge topic today was Safe – and then the chapter read this morning in Grave Robber was Daredevil…got me to thinking…a couple of thoughts to share…
Daredevil – Etymologically (y’all know that word?? I didn’t) it means to dare the devil – therefore – should be a defining characteristic of anyone who follows the One who went forty rounds with the devil in the desert.
Fearlessness is one of the most overlooked and under appreciated dimensions of Jesus – he is the definition of daredevil.
Dorothy Sayers said,
The people who crucified Jesus never, to do them justice, accused him of being a bore – on the contrary, they thought him too dynamic to be safe. It has been left for later generations to muffle up that shattering personality and surround him with an atmosphere of tedium. We have very efficiently pared the claws of the Lion of Judah, certified him “meek and mild,” and recommended him as a fitting household pet for pale curates and pious old ladies.
My hope today comes from the fact that the Lion of Judah is not a pussycat
but rather a lion that still very much ROARS today.
Can I get a freaking AMEN.
From Grave Robber:
Love is more than feel-good emotions or sappy sentiments. Biblically speaking, it’s synonymous with fearlessness. Love doesn’t just make you weak in the knees. It makes you stand firm in your faith no matter what the circumstances. Page 183
Perfect love casts out fear
No matter what the circumstances.
That’s what gets me out of bed in the morning. If I fear (walk with) God, I have nothing else to fear. I’m still not happy about the circumstances…I don’t have all the parenting answers… but I am also aware of the mighty work that is being done in my soul. Because it fu&king hurts. But that’s a whole other blog post for another time.
Take heart if you facing challenges today – know that you have a roaring, mighty God in your corner. And, yes, you’ll need to be brave, and trust, and grow, and hurt, and cry, and get back up, and trust again. Friends, this life stuff absolutely stinks sometimes. Be we also know joy and seasons of delight…this too shall pass… so let us keep our eyes up and be joyful. And if you are in a place today where your ducks are all lined up and behaving, enjoy and be joyful.
Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. 1 Thess 5:16-18
xoxox – DM