An open letter to all the moms in my life…


What would I do without y’all? Yes, I am fiercely independent and stubborn and do not lean on y’all like other daughters do, but you have undeniably blessed me and I wouldn’t be the woman I am today without you.

Lucy – you were my first love and brought me into this world.   The two of us have seen some of the ugly this world has to offer and have survived…even laugh about it now.   You taught me never to lose my sense of humor and how to put one foot in front of another in spite of whether I feel like it or not. You gave me my grit and determination – my sense that anything is possible with a little elbow grease. And then there is the love of gardening…I can’t go in my yard without thinking about the mom I grew up…the one always covered in dirt. They are some of my happiest memories.

Loretta – having nearly grown sons with girlfriends make me appreciate you all the more. While other women may have monsters-in-laws- I truly have another mother. You helped me in young adulthood, the crazy busy years of raising children and now you’re an ear as my boys are trying to become men. Having to share my sons with another female makes me realize just how graceful and wonderful you’ve been all these years – and given me an example on how to be now that the tables are turning.

Genny and Vivian – coming from the family background that I did, I was a bit overwhelmed by the whole extended family thing – but y’all welcomed me with open arms and tremendous grace.  You taught me so much what it means to have family around…I miss you both so much!

Deanna – you came into my life in the most desperate of times and for that I’ll always be grateful. I watched you raise Michelle and paid attention so that when my turn came I felt more confident. And now, you’re another ear to hear my fears and frustrations at raising my crazy ass teenagers.

To all the women of my young adulthood – I have several young women in my life and often think about how y’all loved me and it gives me guidelines on how to pass along womanhood to the next generation. Your tough but generous love helped me grow up and show up in my own life.

To all my mama friends – what would I do without you? There were the years of MOPs, elementary PTA, Parents of Teens, and now mostly coffee before work.  This motherhood journey is the hardest thing I’ve ever done and having friends to share it with makes all the difference. So thank you, thank you for loving me and loving my family. And thank you for sharing your stories and struggles so I don’t feel so alone.

And to you my dear – yes, this is you talking to you.  Never once have you woken up with the intent to ruin your children.  Quite the opposite…you have loved fiercely and passionately.  You have laid it out all on the line.  There have been wins and there have been lessons learned…great days and days you’ve cried yourself to sleep. Welcome to motherhood…like life, no one said it was easy.


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Donna Matthews is a blog writer at the DJRanch where she strives to remain authentic while not taking herself too seriously. She is also the creator of Slay The Chaos (, where she writes about productivity and organization. She is a member of The Writers Guild and Write Space in Houston and is currently writing her first book.