Whim Dec 008

I learned a wonderful word yesterday  – Perspectacles – it was from a wonderful, delightful blog about how one mom changed her perspective about her kitchen.

A way of regarding situations, facts, etc, and judging their relative importance.

So the last couple of months I’ve had a really crummy attitude…you may or may not have noticed.  I have learned over the years that I don’t always have to share my thoughts.  In fact, being the introvert that I am, I tend to keep many of my thoughts to myself.  Besides, keeps me out of a lot of trouble…but I digress….you may or may not have noticed.

So this crummy attitude…can you relate?

#1 Negative/critical – towards others, towards myself…about EVERYTHING!

#2 Apathy/discouragement – really, why try at all – NO ONE ELSE IS?!? (see #1)

#3 Arrogance/prideful – look at all I’m doing and you’re not!  Am I the only one who cares?? (see #1)

And the worst part is…that it is not for lack of quiet time, Bible reading and prayer.  I do this…most days…and yet, here I was…trapped in a vicious cycle.

So God, in His love for me sent an angel.  Just kidding…just wanted to see if you were paying attention. But seriously…he opened my eyes and my heart.  I came across several articles and a couple of Bible verses that hit me square in the middle of the forehead.

These problems – they are of your own making.

Yep…you suck once again (still being critical of self)

But guess what – being of your own making – you can make changes YOU DON’T HAVE TO LIVE THIS WAY!

You see…this is a road I’ve been down before…full of bitterness, pain and dread…and frankly, it’s headed towards burnout and collapse.  Seriously, who wants that?  Not me…I want a life full of love, joy, peace…I want the Fruits of the Spirit!

So…I fell to my knees.
I confessed my sin.
I asked for help.
I prayed, cried and surrendered.
I thanked God for open eyes.
I thanked God for my new Perspectacles

Now I’m on the road to recovery…focusing first on God…his plans and purposes for me…seeking His Kingdom first.  Then I continue to study, be quiet and pray.  Then, rather than be critical of my failure, I recognize it as part of my journey…a component of refinement.  And finally, I have made changes to my lifestyle…who I’m talking to, how I spend my time, boundaries and most importantly, my perspective.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23

God Bless – DM

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Donna Matthews is a blog writer at the DJRanch where she strives to remain authentic while not taking herself too seriously. She is also the creator of Slay The Chaos (, where she writes about productivity and organization. She is a member of The Writers Guild and Write Space in Houston and is currently writing her first book.