Day 25 – Skeletons

Do you have skeletons in your closet?  Of course you do, we all do.  But what if a particular skeleton refused to stay in the closet…a moving, breathing skeleton.

At 18, I was on the tail end of sowing my oats…up to that point it had been a wild ride but why not just sign off with a bang.

I was an unmarried pregnant teen.

But the thing with pregnancy is that once you’re pregnant you are a mother.  Doesn’t matter how the pregnancy ends…at the moment of conception you cross over into motherhood.

And I was miserable and desperate. I did not want to be pregnant.  I did not want to be a mom. But I was responsible for the life inside of me…UGH!

Long story short I chose adoption.  But from the very beginning I insisted on an open adoption.  I might not be qualified to raise a baby but I sure wanted to be involved at some level and committed to help out in any way I could.


Fast forward through the years and it’s the best adoption story ever…we became one big happy family, supporting each other in a variety of ways.

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And then as life often does, it got complicated.  Michelle started having trouble at school…then came the substance abuse, mental health challenges and unsavory companions.  And then her own unplanned pregnancy.

We soon welcomed Jayden…

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And then a couple of years later Lucas…

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Fast forward a year or so, given Michelle’s continued struggle with her demons, her mom, Deanna, and I concluded that it would be better for the boys to live with Deanna.  We had hoped that the boys would bring Michelle around but alas not yet.

They currently live with Deanna and are excelling.  Michelle also lives in Austin and is showing promise – she’s working hard to grow up and to learn how to do this thing called life.  The beauty of the whole story is that we’re still one big family and we’re still supporting each other.

So if you happen to see me out and about with two little precious boys calling me Nana you now know about my skeletons that refuse to stay in the closet – blessedly so!

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Life’s a crazy ride and you never know what it will throw at you…take it one day at a time and be intentional…you absolutely never know that a decision you make on one day will still be impacting your life and many others 25 years later…chose wisely and with love.

xoxox – DM

Donna Matthews is a blog writer at the DJRanch where she strives to remain authentic while not taking herself too seriously. She is also the creator of Slay The Chaos (www.slaythechaos.com), where she writes about productivity and organization. She is a member of The Writers Guild and Write Space in Houston and is currently writing her first book.
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  1. Deanna

    Donna, I’m so proud of you. Our story gives me great joy, and needed grace to continue the journey. Love you

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