I was at a meeting last night and the topic was acceptance.  Part of my brain rolled it’s eyes.

Why?  Because I have a love hate relationship with acceptance. It’s hard.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change…

Acceptance in human psychology is a person’s assent to the reality of a situation, recognizing a process or condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) without attempting to change it or protest it. – Wikipedia

Hello“often negative or uncomfortable.”  Don’t mind acceptance at all when things are going my way but oh hell no when things get a little cray-cray.

And frankly, “without attempting to change it or protest it” feels passive and fatalistic. Oh well, I guess that’s just how it is.  Bulls%^t. Not my natural inclination.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change…

Serenity is the state or quality of being serene, calm, or tranquil; sereneness.

So here is where I my (spiritual immaturity) (2017 – instant gratification mentality) kicks in –

God grant me serenity RIGHT NOOOOOWWWW!

And if I’m not serene then God must not be granting serenity at the moment, I’m doing something wrong, something else must be done, or he has checked out…which I KNOW is not true but I still feel like it sometimes.

So my frame of mind after leaving the meeting was pondering the space and time between

a situation > [NOOOOOOOO!!!!] > serenity > acceptance

I tend to associate the [NOOOOOOOO!!!!] phase with being untrusting, unspiritual, unfaithful… but the more I think about it that’s a self-critiquing lie.  The path to acceptance is often crooked  – there is struggle, grief, discomfort, surrender, pleading, wrestling.  It also takes time.  That thing in this instant now period in human history we forget about.  TIME.

AND the fact that I’m wrestling or rumbling IS NOT NECESSARILY A BAD THING.

Rumbling with God is where we grow, how we change, how we develop our grit.

And by general definition…in our brokenness…in our darkest hours… there are cracks – that’s how God’s light and love get in and serenity is sown.

The seed breaks to give us the wheat. The soil breaks to give us this crop, the sky breaks to give us the rain, the wheat breaks to give us the bread. And the bread breaks to give us the feast. There was once even an alabaster jar that broke to give Him all the glory.
-Ann Voskamp, The Broken Way

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change…

After the rumble, after the [NOOOOOO!!], after the fight, comes the calm serenity, the salve of God’s love…if we let it in.  That place, much like the cushion of the sea, where the world can’t touch our soul…where we are above the fray and safe under His wings.

In that serene place is where we can learn to accept the things we cannot change.

xoxox – DM

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Donna Matthews is a blog writer at the DJRanch where she strives to remain authentic while not taking herself too seriously. She is also the creator of Slay The Chaos (, where she writes about productivity and organization. She is a member of The Writers Guild and Write Space in Houston and is currently writing her first book.

2 thoughts on “Acceptance

  1. Bob

    Wow! Thanks Donna. Did I ever need to read this. I’ve been troubled by my non-acceptance of my life’s situation greatly over the past few months. Just about the time I’ve got things under control I’m hit with some form of financial situation that I wasn’t expecting or was blinded by my optimism and not looking at things in reality. Thinks I have no control over. God grant me the serenity to ….and so on. Thanks.

    • WackyMom Post author

      I love that this post helped – I love how God uses people in our lives to help us see more clearly – praying for you this evening <3

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